父母是否给孩子们太大的压力？

昨天，我上了一个关于 MindChamps 课程的演讲会。其中有一项讨论是关于孩子收到的压力。演讲者说，孩子们受到多处的压力；有功课上的压力，朋友之间的压力，父母给的压力，等等。

所以，演讲者说，这个课程能解决那前两种压力，但第三种的压力是要靠父母对孩子的教导和态度所影响的。演讲者这是一位三个孩子的妈妈，所以她就和观众们分享他琴声经历过的一件事。。。

他最大的孩子小六年中考试成绩有两个科目不及格，所以不敢跟他的妈妈报告他的成绩。他就非常的害怕，伤心，就看着自己的成绩单，不知道该怎么样。不知不觉地，他就把自己的头发给把光了。。。他内心的痛，和害怕，竟然使他外在的痛苦给麻痹了。。。他的妈妈知道了，感到万分的痛苦。演讲者，就是他的妈妈，当场哭了。。。

那我们可以想象，那位孩子受到的压力是多么的大。

我本身觉得，父母和孩子互相之间应该有更密切的沟通，也要互相体谅，才不会给两方造成太多的压力。父母也要学会在适当的时候鼓励孩子，赞扬孩子，让他们觉得自己真正的价值而变得更有自信，也会产生好学的精神。

First solo in chinese orchestra

I'm so proud of myself today.....
I played the 1st solo part in my life in the Chinese Orch practice today!!!

I screwed up(?) a little the first time....but got better. I am pleased with my performance today.

Well, everyone has their first times...and i had mine today. It turned out very well. I'll treat it as a form of motivation and practice harder to improve. :)

Anyway, it was double happiness for me today because the dizi grp got praised the most by the student conductor...yay!!!!!

LOL

I'm back from all the tests

Well, at last, the tests have come to an end...

So far, i experience two disappointments, out of a possible of 2 so far...not a good sign.
But anyway, i'll summurise all my results just for you information after that so keep a good look out if u're interested! lol...

Well, i wouldn't expect myself to do well in EL and Math, maybe in lit and hist. too..i dunno, things can be unpredictable...Initially I thought of publishing another of my poem inspired from this period of time, but decided that I shall not because its too private and sentimental somehow....dun ask me anything abt my poem if u happen to meet me, ok?

So I'm both looking forward and dreading the release of my overall results, but, let' wait n see...

I'm just one week away from my trip to Australia, full of anticipation and excitement...I think Mr. Tan Boon Beng, although very eccentric and unusual or should i say, unique, has a point during the briefing about the trip. He said that at many times, if not most of the time, exchange programmes seem to be all about enjoyment and leisure, nothing much abt learning...but what's the key thing about exchange programmes or any other programs is that one needs to learn how to learn from excursions, esp valuable xchange programmes like this one which enables you to interact closely with foreigners...

It's a great ACE opportunity for EL,CL and GEOG...I'll most likely be teaming up with Han Song and Clifford to do ACE....esp a presentation abt our trip when we return to S'pore....

SO, that's basically all. I'd better start packing!!!! :)

Interacting with Hong Kongers

Just went to host some HK ppl who visited ZPS with Mr.Phang (ex-form teacher), yesterday at IMM...

There was a HOngkong teacher with two other students following us...I met them in the BP library and then met Mr Phang...We then went to baliThai at IMM...

So..we had thai yu sheng, crab meat soup and many more. There were two particular dishes, fried fish and stir fried veg with red dates.

Things became funny....

For the fried fish dish, the Hong Kong teacher pronounced it as "fly fish" and for red dates, she pronounced it as "red daze".... so i was secretly laughing...luckily i managed to control it...

Oh yes...and for the yu sheng, a raw fish salad, Mr phang actually wanted the waitress to explain the meaning of yu sheng. But she said she wasn't professional and Mr phang told her, "Never mind, just explain it in you layman's terms." and I saw her eyes widened and smiled embarrassly, most probally because the word "layman's" is too chim for her.... :) Well, perhaps she's chinese educated...anyway, she presented the meaning of the yu sheng well in chinese...

lime juice : 大吉大利
fish：年年有余
plum sauce：鸿运当头
oil：事事顺利
crackers: 金玉满堂

that's all i remembered...
anyway, we had a great meal chattin' abt wad Hong kongers normally eat in their meals and stuff like that...It's quite enjoyable experience...

aft that we went to mr phang's house and went back to ZPS...

so all in all, i thought that it was a very fun and interesting trip to accompany the Hong Kongers...I think its great that at least they know how to speak maybe..3 languages? (im not sure if they could speak chinese).

So anyway, i'll not b blogging for a while cuz tests r comin'!!!!!!!

bb lol

Visit to uncle's house

Hi, happy CNY to everyone. How's your home visiting experience this CNY? I had a good one.
I thought today's the best so I shall share my experience...

the best visit is to my uncle's house to have lunch. It wasn't really the lunch that matters, it was the Wii that deeply attracted me and made me wanna love it, kiss it, marry it. It was the first time I played with Wii adn I didn't know it was so fun until then. It's like the really thing, esp. for the golf game. I tried the golf and tennis and like the golf better. My uncle and father too got in love with it as they played the virtual Wii golf. Heard fr. my uncle that it costs abt 600++ (very ex) but his family rich lah, so no kick to them. lol :)

So, yeah, that's my best exp....

You have served me well

This is a poem, by me, again. I got the inspiration for this poem when I changed shoes. So, enjoy! :)


You have served me well

You have served me well.

I recalled that when I first received you
I thought that you were magnificent.

You had colours that deeply attracted me
you had a design that was unique and special
at least to me.

I treated you,
as a symbol of love from my parents,
because they never got anything like you
for me.

You not only had the external features
you had the softness
you had the grip
you had the size
that perfectly suits me.

I cared about you
I washed you
I polished you
I admired you
I appreciated you
as a way of reciprocating your help to me.

You ran with me
walked with me
jumped with me
trudged with me
climbed with me
no matter where I go
you would support me.

But now,
you could no longer support me
and neither can I care for you
you have gone
you have been brought away
or should I say,
you have been stolen away
from me.


But now,
no matter where you are,
no matter who you are with,
no matter what,
I just wrote
to say that
you
have served me
well.

By Ting Chang Hui
6 Feb 2008

Description of photos and elaboration of trip

Well, the photos are at the bottom....

So actually I went to Cambodia for both tour and visiting with my mother's god-sister and my mum's god-sister's mother-in-law as well as my whole family except my father, cuz he needed ta work...

Em, we actually went overseas for 2 wks total, of which we also visited Ah Ran, Thailand where two of my "half-blooded" cousins live. Basically, all of my cousins from my mother's side are cambodians so far except the two of them.

All in all, it was a nice trip as i getta meet all the relatives there, esp my grandfather whom i've not met for 7 yrs...i getta eat some of the funy foods like spiders, duck eggs with half-developed-chicks inside, some egg plant leaves(tastes ok) and cambodian salted fish which , like the chinese salted fish, stinks to the core. But surprisingly the dishes with it are dededelicious.

I've visited several places like the killing field where i could see bones all around me (it's true, no sacarsm), and of cuz the angkor wat, a VERY VERY BIG PLACE i should say cuz we needa travel on tuk tuks...

I fell really sick when i wenta thailand because of the 5 hour bumpy ride on the dirt road (i think its worse than a dirt road). so all in all, all i could say was that i went to the toilet, slept and drank alot... :(

THe nice part is also the trip to the beach (it actually took 4 hours to getta the beach! OMG) so we went there by a bus booked by my third aunty as there were also my third aunty's employees tagging along. The beach was freakingly clean and there were cow roaming around us...so FUN!!!!

I just wanna go to Cambodia again! Maybe im goin' france nxt yr cuz i've got relatives there too! :)

Trip to Cambodia continued....

I just wanna share this cute photo of my bro in the wild with the cows that i've professionally taken...haha....NO PHOTOSHOP PROGRAMS USED!!!! it's all creditted to me!

I realise that i have too many photos and there's already so many photos in my blog. So, i tot i just publish what i think is the most memorable and cute photo...lol =P

Trip to Cambodia in the Dec Holidays

cuz too tired already, so tomorrow then continue to post... lol sun sets....

so high.....CLIMBED AT OUR OWN RISKS...

me and my sis in angkor wat

me at angkor wat, with the sun set as backgrnd.....

ahh...why wouldn't this come out?

my grandfather and my bro

grabbing coconuts...(driven nuts by coconuts) lol....

won't the rattan swing break? :<

Malakon and Nampaet taking pic with the water works at the hotel.

walk and walk and walk....at one of the Thai festival (quite a big scale one)...

walk and walk and walk....with the performance

tough walk to the river....i wasn't feeling very well so i wore a jacket.

preparing the lamps......

My sis holding a lamp to be released into the river

This is a pic when im in Thailand, Ah Ran, near the border of Cambodia. (From left)my third uncle, my brother,my younger sis, me, my mother hugging my two young thai/cambodian cousins, my third aunty and my third aunty's mother-in-law.

LOL! Hunt for 2K's blog by Mr Dorje

Hahas. Today mr dorje told the class abt his hunt for 2K bloggers to know whether we've been stabbing him behind the back! What an INTERESTING teacher!

令人感动的一篇文章

你应在向我突然用华文的原因吧？这是因为我接下来要写下的是我在家里找到的一张蛮令人感动的作文。 请你们仔细地读一读吧，真得蛮不错的。

作文是这样的：

孩子，当你还很小的时候，
我花了很多时间，
教你慢慢用汤匙，用筷子吃东西。
叫你帮鞋带， 扣扣子， 滑溜梯，
叫你穿衣服， 梳头发， 拧鼻涕，
这些和你在一起的点点滴滴，
是多么令我怀念不已。

所以，当我想不起来时，接不上电话时，请给我一点时间，
等我一下，让我在想想。。。。。。极可能最后连说甚什么，
我也忘记了。
孩子，你忘记了我们练习了好几百回，　才学会的第一手儿歌吗？
是否还记得每天总要我绞尽脑汁，去回答你不是从哪里冒出来的问题吗？　
所以，当我重复又重复说着老掉牙的故事，
哼着我孩提时代的儿歌时，体谅我，让我继续沉醉在这些回忆中，
切望你，也能陪我闲话家长吧！

孩子，现在我常忘了扣扣子，绑鞋带。吃饭时，会弄脏衣服，
梳头发时，手还会不停的抖，　不要催促我，要对我多一些耐心和温柔，
只要有你在一起，就会有很多的温暖涌上心头。
孩子，如今，我的脚也站不稳，走也走不动，所以，
请你紧紧地握着我的手，陪着我，慢慢的，　就像当年一样，
我带着你，一步一步地走。

－－－－完－－－－

怎样？好读吗？虽然是很多字，但是这篇文章是很容易理解的。。。我蛮喜欢的

Newspaper Collection for CIP

Anyway, it didn't turn out to be that bad after all...

It's quite a fun experience going around the block collecting newspapers and old stuff. There were many helpful and sociable residents in Ghim Moh Block 1. Many had gotten ready newspapers and old clothes to donate to us while a small portion rather sell their old clothes and newspapers to Karang Guni and earn some money for themselves. And guess what, one of the "bad guy" was a female Christian who actually had a framed sewn cloth hanging at the door which shows "Let the beauty of God live in me." - What a contrast! But she did give a little little bit of newspaper out of a stack of newspaper of about a metre high. At least there's still a little good in her.

Some other residents offered us canned drinks and bottle of mineral water. So in the end we had like 6 canned drinks and 2 bottles of mineral water. Although we were told not to accept anyting, we did (secretly). ;) But anyway, we didn't just like say " AUNTY I WANT I WANT!!!! PLEASE!!!" We would pretend like to be damn good students of HCI by saying, "Aunty we are not doing this for the sake of canned drinks you know, we are really passionate to help the Ulu Pandan community. But if you really really insist, we shall accept your generous offer." lol =P

But after awhile, it was like darn tiring. Imagine, 4 sec 2 students, one of which had the size of a p5 kid, two others were in the performing arts (including me) and only one is from NCC who appeared to have muscle aches because of the harsh training the day before. There should actually be like 10 ppl in one block, LAH. But at least all the four of us, Zai Wei (the small but reasonably fit dwarf), Wei Jun (a sopranoin the chor), Zhe Wei (the strong and muscular NCC hunk) and lastly me, a Chinese Orch member, worked hard together and completed the block!!!

There was once when I walked on the 7th floor when i saw one cat guarding the door of its owner's house. WHen i arrived, it's body was like pointed all the way up and its tail was raised. IT slowly walked to be with its eyes locked onto my face. I could really see its claws coming out. I back away when it came too close. It was when its owner came out and carried it away and handed my a stack of newspapers. Phew!

THere was one thing, however, that was frustrating. It was when the garbage truck came late and the whole of 2K was held up while the rest of the classes were dismissed. Everyone was starving. But at least, it was counted into the CIP hours. It was when the garbage truck came when we realised that our effort to pile the newspapers up is all washed down the drain as the newspapers were squased and squeezed into the garbage truck till it was over-loaded. There were so much newspapers that we needed two gigantic garbage trucks to carry everything to the recyling centre! For the first time, the garbage trunks wasn't smelly - it contained only newspapers!!!

Well, but b4 the 2nd truck came, we were dismissed 4 lunch. We officially did 6.5 hours of CIP from 8am to 2.30pm non-stop. YAY!

Maybe its a fun way to earn CIP. But you'll be beat dead after that! :)

My Utopia

In one of the English lessons this week, my EL teacher asked the whole class to think and write about what is our own utopia. So here's mine:

In my utopia, there should be fairness and proper use of advanced technology.

Fairness and justice is what we could see in the real world, in countries like Singapore, our home. However, there are still many people in the world suffering poverty because of the corruption and emblezzlement committed among their leaders. There are still many people in the world who are suffering in wars caused by their government. There are still many people in the world who are victims of sexual and child abuse. There are just still too much injustice and unfairness occuring in the world to be listed.

Why should people suffer the consequences of what they haven't done? Why should young children be the victims of child abuse and even, sexual abuse? Why should the lives of these people be so hard?
...Who knows?....

There are things that are just so unfair. But in fact, nothing is fair in the world. Here we are, using the internet with a computer, blogging and email-ing, enjoying the joy of living on Earth with abundant entertainment. There they are, running for their lives, enduring hunger and also, the fear of the lost of another beloved one...it just ain't fair.

Therefore, Fairness and Justice, leading to Happiness, would thrive in my utopia.

The next aspect would be the proper use of advanced techonology. Many countries, such as Iraq and South Korea, are turning into a nuclear power country. Why must the world have nuclear energy? For defence? For war? For money? For superiority?

Many criminals use the internet to commit crimes that includes hacking of systems, circulation of computer viruses and lastly, luring young and foolish teenagers to meet them followed by cheating them of their money and even turn into rape and murder. These are just ruthless ways to cheat and destroy properties and also lives of others.

Can't waita meet....

I am looking forward for the reunion of 6H in ZPS. It'd be great to meet teachers there, esp. Ah Phang..oops...MR Phang. :)

It'd be great! Long live 6H!!!

Anyway, Kenneth, think we could start planning for this yrs gathering! =P

lol

ANYWAY, A VERY HAPPY CHINESE NEW YR TO EVERYONE!!!
isn't getting hong baos the happiest thing abt CNY?